I’ve been thinking a lot about how we communicate with spirit – spirit guides, angels, deities, the Universe…
The message I want to emphasize today is this: There’s no right or wrong way to do it.
It only needs to come from the heart.
If you’ve been raised in a religious background, you may have been taught that there’s a “right” way to pray or communicate with spirit, with specific things you must say and a certain structure to follow.
If you haven’t been raised with any religious or spiritual traditions, you might also worry that you’re doing it wrong, or just not have the slightest clue how to begin.
A lot of books I’ve read give very specific wording to follow for rituals and ceremonies, as well as spirit communication in general – “scripts”, if you will, that you’re supposed to memorize (I guess) and use.
To me, this is kind of like rote memorization of a subject at school, instead of true learning and understanding.
I think most of us here can agree that we’d rather see kids at school genuinely learning and understanding, instead of just memorizing facts.
So… I wonder why spirituality is still taught that way by so many people, and why that’s what we tend to default to in our own exploration?
Whatever the reason, I believe that it’s time for a change.
In my study of witchcraft, I have sometimes tried to follow ceremonies or rituals as outlined in books. While I do think that books can be a good source of inspiration, and to learn some basic concepts (and yes, there are lots of correspondences that genuinely make sense), let’s face it – it’s a lot like trying to follow a guided meditation from a book! It’s just not possible to really be in the moment, immersed in the energy of it, and be constantly checking your book to see what you’re forgetting or “missing”, or wracking your brain trying to remember what’s “supposed” to come next.
You’re not missing anything. Spirit will guide you in exactly what you most need. If you “forget” to invoke a particular spirit, well, maybe you don’t really need to work with them on that day. It’s not as if that’s your one chance to do so… you can always do it next time if you want to
I now do my ceremonies much more intuitively, going by what feels right in the moment and speaking what’s in my heart. Sometimes this simply means writing a few things I’m grateful for on some scraps of paper, and adding them to my altar with a few words of thanks to spirit.
Sometimes it’s a lot more involved than that, with crystal grids that I spend most of the day perfecting, tarot spreads for guidance, carefully worded intentions, researching deities to assist with a particular area of focus, and so on.
Those things are fun, and of course I do like all of the props like the pretty candles and all of that. But what I really want to emphasize is that you don’t need to do that.
You can keep it very, very simple.
And just do it from your heart.
It’s so much more about your intention and the feeling behind it.
Working in this way also opens up WAY more possibilities to be guided intuitively – both during your spirit communications, and in life in general. When they see that you’re willing to listen, they will talk more.
I have heard of people who became so frustrated with prayer or communicating with spirit that they had essentially given up, and then finally one day they broke down sobbing and swearing at whatever they believe in (Universe, Source, God, angels, etc) and THAT is when they could hear the communication back.
Because what they were doing came from the heart.
They were finally being honest, speaking their truth, from their heart.
There is so much more power in that than a memorized script. Just say what you need to say.